Foreplay is great, isn’t it? We all want more of it, and most of us would like it to last longer. Have you ever stopped to wonder why we love foreplay and many men see it as an obstacle to the main event? Well, that’s actually unfair, lots of men enjoy foreplay. In fact, many of them enjoy it as much as we do. However, because it’s not the masculine thing to say, they’ll probably never utter those words aloud.
The fact is that men, on the whole, can be aroused with the slightest touch or sexy suggestion. Now, sometimes, it’s the same for women. But, more often than not, it takes a little while for our engines to warm up. And a great bit of foreplay can get us there.
What’s the Purpose of Foreplay?
On the very simplistic face of it, foreplay is all about arousal. It’s about getting us girls (I say that, because chances are your man is ready and raring to go) primed for sex. However, there is much more to it than that; foreplay is a great way to bond with your lover, it’s an expression of love and an exploration of the other’s body.
It’s also about building sexual tension. Now, you may think that creating arousal and building sexual tension are one and the same, but you’d be wrong. You can be totally aroused and still enjoy the slow increase of sexual tension. Slowly ratcheting the tension is all about teasing your lover and yourself, until you simply can’t take it anymore. This goes far beyond good old arousal, and it can dramatically increase your sexual pleasure – and his, too!
Ways to Build Tension During Foreplay
Blindfold your lover, or have him blindfold you. Removing one sense, has an incredible affect on the other four. While you lover is exploring your body, with his hands or mouth, your sense of touch is on high alert. In addition, not being able to see what is happening places you, or your lover, in a slightly vulnerable position, which can be incredibly sexy.
Look, but don’t touch. This can be especially effective for men, because they are highly receptive to visual input. Try putting on a private striptease or lap dance for him, but insist that he keeps his hands to himself.
Challenge him to find your most erogenous zone, without touching your genitals. This little game can, of course, be played the other way around.
Let your mouth do the talking. For some people, hearing a lover tell an erotic story or describing what he, or she, plans to do to them is one of the sexiest things in the world. Try telling each other arousing stories, but don’t even touch each other while doing this. It won’t take long before one, or both, of you is begging to be touched.
There is, of course, no limit to the methods of enhancing sexual tension and these are just a few of the techniques you might like to try with your lover. Remember, even if a ‘game’ or method of building tension seems like it is designed to tease one partner more than the other, it will actually have a profound effect on both of you.