1. Men don’t have a “Flaw-O-Meter”
But lots of women do, I know. Truly, when the two of you are getting it on, the very last thing on his mind is whether or not you’ve gained a few pounds this month. His desire to have the lights on has nothing to do with how comfortable you feel with your body and everything to do with how excited he is to see you naked.
2. Sex happens during dinner, too
There are so many sexy thoughts connected to food and eating that it’s a wonder men can get through a meal without dragging you into the bedroom for a sweet and sexy dessert. You can capitalize on this with a few choice selections of your own. Anything that involves long slow licks (popsicles, anyone?), juicy delicious dribbles (think ripe peaches), spicy-sticky goodness (I’m all for some bar-b-que myself), or phallic foods (pickles, bananas, asparagus, chicken fingers), or similar things are enough to utterly derail his brain and make him wish you were on the menu.
3. A confident woman is an fabulous turn-on
Women sometimes have the idea that a man will handle all the the work of sex, from initiating sex to determining the pace, style, and duration of everything that happens. Of course they love sex, but they will (happily) loose many night’s sleep to keep a woman who not only initiates sex, but also knows — and shares in steaming hot detail — exactly what she likes and desires.
4. Short sentences are incredibly hot
Men know that most women have elaborate, romantic fantasies about sex. But the truth is that raw, naked sex (without a single flounce, ribbon, or bow) is so compelling that his most primitive fantasies run more toward extremely short sentences: Short skirt! Against the wall! Open mouth! Women who know this have yet another tool in their sexual arsenal. Try a hot and sexy text message offering him the bare, naked goods, or casually tell him precisely what you have in mind for him right after the kids are in bed. The more basic and explicit you can be, the better.
5. “Routine” is still great sex
Don’t make the mistake of thinking that just because you and he have a fairly established sexual routine — a certain time or way that you typically have sex — that he’s bored or unhappy. Men are excited to know how and when they are going to be getting it next.