Her pleasureA large proportion of the female population experience persistent and consistent difficulty reaching orgasm. If you’re one of these women, the good news is that it really doesn’t have to be this way. You should be reaching orgasm every single time you have sex. Optimistically, you should be thinking in terms of multiple orgasms and you can make it happen.

Female Orgasm Isn’t as Complicated as You Might Think

Now, while I won’t pretend that your orgasm issues are necessarily ones that can be solved quickly, ensuring you achieve climax is probably much more simple than you think. Typically, the recipe for orgasm is as follows: arousal, relaxation and stimulation.

All women know what they need in terms of stimulation to make them climax. If you don’t, then it’s a simple case of experimenting while you masturbate. Relaxation is vital, because so much of a woman’s orgasm comes from what’s going on in her head. If your mind is elsewhere, stressing about work, anxious about a family crisis or any number of other things, you won’t find orgasm easy to come by. In fact, it might not come at all. Or, should that be, you won’t come at all?

Why is Arousal Important?

As far as I’m concerned, arousal is the first and most important ingredient in ensuring your orgasm. I’m not saying that it’s all you need, but I can guarantee that without it, you will find climax hard to impossible.

Arousal is, of course, vital for men and women. However, arousal tends to be easier for men. They only have to catch a glimpse of something sexual or allow their minds to wander to erotic territory and, like flicking a switch, they’re ready for action. The reason that male arousal is vital for intercourse is abundantly clear, but why do women need to be aroused?

It’s true, we can have sex when we’re not really in the mood for it. Unlike a man’s, a woman’s arousal isn’t crucial, right? Well, that may be technically true, but I think we need to change our point of view. We have the ability to become aroused for a reason – it prepares our body for sex. If our bodies aren’t prepared for sex, then the whole experience isn’t particularly enjoyable.
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